In danger now? Get urgent help — no account needed
Worried about someone
You don't need to be an expert to help. Being there, listening and helping them reach the right support makes a real difference.
Is anyone in danger right now?
If they have hurt themselves, have taken something, or you think they might act on thoughts of suicide soon: contact local emergency services now. If it is safe, stay with them, keep them company and move anything they could use to hurt themselves out of reach. You can call on their behalf.
What should I say?
- Find a quiet moment. Say what you've noticed and that you care, for example: "You seem really low lately, and I'm worried about you."
- Listen more than you talk. You don't need to fix everything.
- If you're worried about suicide, ask directly: "Are you thinking about suicide?" Asking directly does not put the idea in their head, and many people feel relieved to be asked.
Which signs should I take seriously?
- Talking about wanting to die, or about being a burden.
- Looking for ways to end their life, or saying goodbye and giving things away.
- Pulling away from people, big changes in sleep, eating or mood, or drinking and using more.
- A sudden calm after a very hard time. Any mention of a plan needs urgent action.
Should I stay with them?
- If the danger is immediate: yes, if it is safe for you, until help arrives or someone else takes over.
- If it isn't immediate: agree when you will next check in, and keep that promise.
Who should I contact?
- Immediate danger: local emergency services.
- Serious but not immediate: their doctor or mental health team, a crisis line where they live, or people they trust.
- For a young person: a parent, carer or school counsellor as well.
How do I encourage professional help?
- Offer practical help: finding a doctor, making the call together or going with them.
- Keep it about their wellbeing, not blame.
What if they refuse?
- Keep the door open and keep checking in.
- You don't have to keep a secret that puts their life at risk. If the danger is serious or immediate, involve emergency services or people who can help, even if they ask you not to.
Look after yourself too
- Supporting someone is hard. Talk to someone you trust, rest when you can, and remember you can't do this alone.
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